Hi! I’m Rowan. I’m a full time working mama who’s been in retail and hospitality for 9 years. I have two kids (1st grade and an almost-three-year-old), a puppy (she’s six) and a hubby who is also a stay-at-home-dad. I enjoy sipping a quick coffee in the kitchen with my hubs while watching our babies draw on the walls or climb over the couch like it’s Everest or put on a rave or something.
It Doesn't Look *Perfect*
I don’t have #goals decor. My life definitely doesn’t look like a gorgeous Pinterest board, but it’s still perfectly imperfect.
I get crushing migraines that limit the time I can devote to side projects like this blog and building the curriculum of my dreams. Even as I’m writing this, I am keeping a migraine at bay with positive thoughts and Tylenol. I do this because I feel compelled to help others see their weird quirks as strengths and rise above expectations.
I’ve overcome self-doubt and confidence issues, an eating disorder, depression, and a stutter. I have come this far because I’ve placed my faith in God, learned to stay curious and introspective, and systematized by best practices.
I know there is a way to navigate creativity and entrepreneurship while balancing traditional punch-the-clock work. I’m walking this path too and I’m sharing everything with you in real-time as I figure it out.
Here’s how I balance it all without going crazy:
You Have to Know How to Prioritize
You might think I’m going to talk about Eisenhower Boxes, keeping a tight to-do list, and limiting your commitments here. (And while those are valuable tools that I dive deep into in my Invincibility Formula, it isn’t what I’m going to touch on here.)
I invest in things that are meaningful that I own (like my blog and curriculum, for example). If I created physical products or owned my own brick and mortar, I’d invest in those. This is so key for me because when I’m home, my time is so limited with the house, the kids, and migraines taking the left-overs.
I know that creating a better life starts with how I spend my time. When I’ve got a free few hours, so I use it to build towards my vision.
There are several amazing side-effects to investing in yourself:
You become more confident
You start developing passions, expertise, or discover new hobbies
You become a bigger asset at work
You understand more clearly the direction of your life or career
You recognize time-wasters and you’re able to establish boundaries
You begin to have more time for things you enjoy
There are more, but those are my favorites.
I’m Living In The Good-Ol’-Days
I do what I do to have more time with my family. A huge downside of working for anyone else besides yourself is that you have to miss moments. I’ve missed first steps, bedtime stories, funny songs, and almost every holiday with my family for ten years. I know I can’t get those back, but I don’t dwell. It’s motivation to make it better.
One of the biggest myths I held for a long time was that true happiness was far off after I hit a big goal. What I didn’t realize was that I wasn’t chasing material things. I wanted moments. Happy, quiet, moments to watch my kids grow up. I don’t need more money for that. I don’t need to accomplish anything, have a certain type of house, go on a vacation, or wear anything special.
I have those moments now. I just need to realize they’re happening around me.
This reminds me of Andy Bernard on one of the last episodes of the Office (yep, I made a lot of TV, musical, and movie references) when he said
“I wish there was a way to know you’re in the good old days before you leave them.”
Ah, that gets me in the feels.
This is a veeeerrry recent realization for me. I am in the good old days. I know I’ll remember these days as the times when I was burning the candle at both ends more often than I’d like to admit, the grind of my side-hustle, making pancakes and pillow forts, sipping coffee in the kitchen with my hubs while the kids destroy the living room.
When I appreciate that I can allow myself to feel that joy that I aspire to.
Steps to Balancing It All Without Going Crazy:
Know your direction. It doesn’t have to be perfect and you probably will and should pivot along the way, but always follow your North Star.
Understand your Scope. Don’t ask yourself to do too much, deliver multitudes, or lasso the moon. At least not at first. If you’re a team of one, you must take on only a little bit. Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.
Keep going. It’s a marathon, not a race. Others will tire and give up, but someone that follows a passion does it because it is the purpose of their life. And that makes perseverance inevitable.
If you are ready to understand your unique value add, your soft skills, and whether you’ve got someone big in your future, join the waitlist for The Invincibility Formula. Registration is open right now and you can get to work understanding and appreciating yourself a little bit better.